Five years ago I felt lost
I felt directionless... life wasn't exactly tough for me, I had a good job that I found somewhat rewarding, a loving partner and an altogether comfortable life... too comfortable. Keeping busy wasn't an issue in a world full of distractions, but whenever I stopped to breathe and reflect I felt dissatisfaction looming over me. Behind that dissatisfaction was a knowing that there was more to life than what I had and that there was potential in myself that was going unfulfilled.
At the time, I lacked the drive, motivation and skills to make the changes I thought could help, and the scale of it felt too much to even know where to begin. I wanted the change but didn't know where to start and so I kept turning the same circles, treading the same paths, growing more and more disillusioned.
Why do I feel like this?
At some point on this downward spiral I decided to start asking myself questions. Why do I feel like this? What can I do to change this? Why am I so unsatisfied? After some reluctance and resistance I decided to see a therapist and began to explore the pages of my own book from a different viewpoint - I had a new context for why I am the way I am.
This was just the start of a long journey of self discovery, of figuring myself out. Looking back, it was the action of committing to seeing a therapist that started to shift things for me and I know now that it's the bravest thing I've ever done. It's not easy having a mirror held up to yourself and discovering things you never knew, or hadn't had the courage to face.
After some time…
I realised that I needed action. Therapy is fantastic for figuring out the what and the why behind limiting beliefs but it rarely looks at what's in front and plotting a path towards new goals. Slowly and painstakingly I plotted a new course for my life. I learned the art of mindfulness that helped me notice unhelpful thoughts, develop acceptance and resilience. I also started making action plans guided by my values that helped me move forward. Without realising it I coached myself into making change happen. Do you know what would have helped make it easier then? A life coach.
So here I am!
Five years on, living my vision. My nine to five life is gone, I travel full-time, living and working remotely out of the campervan I built. I've created space in my life to unlock my potential and am living by a set of values I believe in.
My story isn't an unusual one - many of us recognise when we are stuck but struggle to shift. What’s more unusual is actually making the changes happen. My own transformation helped spark an interest in coaching as a helping profession and inspired me to explore and train as a coach so others could benefit from what I wished I’d had all those years ago!
How about you?
Change looks different for everyone. For me, it was escaping the shackles of regular life and full-time work to create space and find a different way to live… For you it might look very different. So ask yourself now, what do you want to change? What do you want to transform in your life? Ask yourself the question - what do I really want? You owe it to yourself.
Book an insight chat to make the first step. It’s completely free and non-binding. Here's to talking 🙏🏻✌🏻